In theory in our discussion today, Lawrence and I tackled the topic of transitions. But it evolved into a lot of dialogue about transition in and as part of being a couple, including the importance of communication and struggling to be supportive of other people's transitions.
Grow or Die
by Alora & Lawrence
Leadership and business coaches Lawrence Henderson and Alora Chistiakoff chat over a weekly Coaching Mystery Box topic relating to professional development, career management and leadership. With Lawrence's background in the military and corporate L&D, and Alora's background in entrepreneurial tech and startups, we come at everything from two different perspectives, but with a common value: action, not excuses!
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Join Lawrence and me as we discuss the nitty gritty of reframing -- how to do it, why bother and what things you need to get clear about in order to decide whether or not it's worthwhile. We have a great discussion about the tough parts of adulting, and who should (and shouldn't) have the power to e…
Join Lawrence and I this week as we discuss a recent hot topic worth spending a few minutes tackling: toxic positivity. What is it? Why do people do it? Why is it unhelpful? And what is a good yard stick to use to determine when being positive about something helps, versus when it stops being constr…
Join us in this week's conversation as we discuss the reality of post-Covid life, and the 'return to normal' that is starting to roll back a lot of well-intended efforts around diversity. Is it just about company culture? Or bigger things like politics and the economy? Probably a bit of both. Lawren…
Today Lawrence and I discussed the notion of disruptive leadership -- how and why it happens, why it matters, and what it can look like from different angles.
Join Lawrence and me while we discuss Arthur Brooks new book, "From Strength to Strength." Midlife changes, transitioning to new strengths, reviving relationships and more.
Anger is universal: we all feel it, we all feel JUSTIFIED in feeling it, and we all have behaviors that are triggered by our anger. But what happens when our behavior when we are angry begins to cost us too much? Is it possible to manage our own anger? Is it possible to help someone else with theirs…
Join Lawrence and I as we discuss our own tricks and techniques not just for managing conflict, but for busting ourselves when we catch ourselves avoiding it. As usual, we both figure out a couple of useful things to keep in mind.
There is no time like when you're hurting to lean into your community. But how do you do that or build that when you don't think you need it? And how do you show up for the people who need you? Lawrence and I talk about this and more in light of family loss and Russia's invasion of Ukraine this week…
The NYT recently had an article that discussed the psychological component of The Great Resignation: that quitting is contagious. Or, put another way, that when we see someone quit their job, it gives us permission to consider that option, too. Join me and Lawrence while we discuss quitting, permiss…
We are back for the beginning of Season 3, and we get things kicked off by discussing how to manage our own weaknesses -- without getting bogged down in them!
One of the hardest things we are ever called upon to do in life is to stand by and watch while someone we love is in pain. Whether that is physical or emotional in nature, the reality is that we are often unable to help someone no matter how desperately we'd like to. Join us in this week's episode a…
How do you get past analysis paralysis and ACT -- especially when your current situation is safe and predictable? What do you need to do in order to step out and bet on yourself? Join us in this week's episode for a discussion for how to grant yourself the leeway you need to move ahead.
One of the hardest things to learn about yourself over time is how much personal power you are capable of conveying (and when), and then when and how to use it wisely. Join us in this week's episode as we discuss figuring out this nuance.
For all the talk about teams and all of my love of work as a source of social interaction, there are times when you find yourself working with a colleague who SIMPLY DRIVES YOU CRAZY. In this episode, I break down my three big buckets of crazy-making when it comes to co-workers, and Lawrence and I d…
The idea of owning your own business is enormously appealing to many people. There are a lot of ways to do this, and one of them is to buy one. In today's episode, Lawrence and I discuss his journey -- and ultimate decision -- when it comes to buying a business.
We like to pretend that our energy is infinite and that we can muscle our way through when times are tough. But the reality is that our energy matters to how we show up in all aspects of our lives. So when you are feeling out of control, and you feel like you are scattered or struggling, what can yo…
Have you ever heard someone make an excuse like, "Ignore him. It's just his temper talking." Is that actually helpful? One of the most important characteristics of leadership -- and the PERCEPTION of someone AS a leader -- is their ability to handle pressure gracefully. One of the most important way…
Do you feel like you spend your time chasing things for the sake of someone else's rat race? Is it productive? Is it useful? Is it serving you? In this week's episode, Lawrence and I talk about the value of being intentional. Pick your battles, and then choose to be intentional in how you expend you…
In the aftermath of the 2020 presidential election and before the results were called, we all had to sit in a truly uncomfortable state: limbo. We took the opportunity to discuss this, particularly as it pertains to self-management, leadership and larger organizational impacts.